The Biggest Mistake When It Comes to Our Lovability or Worth

The Biggest Mistake When It Comes to Our Lovability or Worth

Do you ever find yourself saying:

“There must be something wrong with me, because I can’t ….”

  • lose weight
  • make money
  • get organized
  • find true friendships
  • find lasting love
  • stay out of debt
  • get along with my family
  • find clients
  • write my book

…and the list goes on and on

Or it may sound like… “There must be something wrong with me because this person has (insert whatever your desire is) and I don’t, even though I tried very hard.”

If you have engaged in any of the above self-doubting measures, I’ve got a question for you:

What are you making not having something mean about you?

My bet is what you are making this mean all points back to shaming yourself in one way or another.

Common shame themes include:

  • I’m not lovable
  • I’m not good enough
  • I’m not worthy
  • I’m not smart enough
  • I’m not deserving

I promise you, there is nothing wrong with you, as a person/essence/being.

The biggest mistake is…

You are making not having what you desire mean something false about you.

The more you give meaning to NOT having your desire, the more you increase your shame.

This false belief will unconsciously fester despite positive thinking.

So while, sticking a positive thought on top of a negative emotion may give you a temporary fix, it won’t be lasting. Your thoughts are not the same as your beliefs. It is your beliefs that keep causing the same results.

The reason that positive thinking on it’s own won’t work is because you are only addressing the issue from a conscious level. Your emotions and shaming beliefs, however, exist within your subconscious.

Given that your mind is operating 90% from the subconscious, working with only 10% of your conscious mind via positive thinking doesn’t make for good odds.

This is why, despite what you are thinking, the energy of how people experience you is based upon how you really FEEL about yourself due to your beliefs.

So, if you really want to change how you feel about yourself, see the light in your shame.


In other words, what do you tell yourself that makes you unlovable, not good enough, or unworthy???

Whatever “IT” is usually sounds like, I’m too:

– lazy – unorganized – needy
– sensitive – stupid – boring
– selfish – bitchy – etc…

Whatever “IT” is, I invite you to take a step back and see what might be good and right about having that quality. (Here’s a hint, you wouldn’t be expressing that quality unless it worked for you on some level!)

If I got you stumped, don’t worry. I am creating a new Facebook live show called..

Name Your Shame Game!

Email [email protected] with ‘Name Your Shame Game’ in the subject line and I’ll support you to shift from shaming your false self to claiming your true self!

Whether you got the answer or need help, I’d love to hear from you!

By authentically claiming your shame, you’ll learn to love yourself better. The more you love, honor, and receive all of you, the more you can receive what your desire to experience from life!

With Lots of Love to ALL Aspects of YOU,

Michelle Bersell